Life, Writing

Success Is…

A lot of friends and I have our eyes unswervingly fixated on “success”. We forego hanging out with friends, watching tv, using the internet, and just having a life in general to chase after our passions and goals in life. It’s noble and good and we should ALWAYS be working our butts off because nobody should walk around life thinking anything is granted to them. You have to work for what you get.

With that said, I do have socialist leanings and I believe we should help one another.

Caring about people doesn't make one a communist. Sheesh! What's that comrade? Do I want another vodka tonic? DA!

Caring about people doesn’t make one a communist. Sheesh!
What’s that comrade? Do I want another vodka tonic? DA!

Anyway, I know many people spend a lot of time reading about how to become successful and how to become better people in general. I do! I have many self-actualization books both in my cue and mental library. I’ve learned a lot! But, the question I always ask myself after reading the wisdom of those smarter or at least more tenacious than I is, “What did they read?” Also, I feel as if it’s always important to understand that things change! The formula for their success won’t necessarily be the formula for mine. For instance, your uncle and cousins could be fairly(and wildly) famous directors, actors and film producers. That’s not to say you still didn’t work hard for where you are.

Jason Schwartzman just got added to your list of things to do today...

Jason Schwartzman just got added to your list of things to do today… (Yes I know the quote is out of context)

Anyway, your formula for and path to success is going to be necessarily different from the guy who was raised by a couple of modest Jehovah’s Witnesses in a small town in Georgia. Your mother worked at a daycare and your father was a postal worker. You also had a plethora of foster children in your home. Oh, and you are now an actor, writer, comedian, musician and one of my greatest inspirations.

Black Nerds Unite!

Black Nerds Unite!

This focus on success came after I started reading this book:

I've been watching a lot of Parks and Rec, so I definitely noticed Amy Poehler in the background before anything else... No offense, Ian Roberts I like you too!  If you're interested:

I’ve been watching a lot of Parks and Rec, so I definitely noticed Amy Poehler in the background before anything else… No offense, Ian Roberts I like you too!
If you’re interested:

I was lying on my bed reading a book teaching me how to be better instead of just being better. I stared at my four wood-paneled walls and felt.. inadequate. What was I doing wrong? The answer was and will always be nothing. Never feel like you’re doing something WRONG. (Unless you are, but if you are you know it and you don’t have to ask yourself if it’s wrong. That’s the kind of thing you FEEL and you ask yourself WHY.)

You’re just living. There’s nothing wrong with surviving. Our ancient ancestors would be mad jealous of our ability to just keep on living. Be proud of life.

Naturally, I haven’t “made it” yet. So, what am I personally doing?

I’m just trying. I know for a fact that I could be doing more. I could be putting myself out there more, spending more time writing and reading, exercising more and whatnot. But, I know I am trying and trying leads to failure, but failure leads to success.

And on success: defines success as: The favorable or prosperous termination of attempts or endeavors; the accomplishment of one’s goals.

That sounds terrifying to me. The termination of attempts or endeavors?!? Yikes! I never want to reach some point in my life where I feel done. For my gamer nerds, I want to constantly Level-Up! Success seekers, it’s cliche, but remember the journey is the fun part. Enjoy being on it and don’t forget that you’re lucky to be where you are. Never. Be. Done.

And now for some quotes from the people I mentioned:

  1. I just find that the harder you work and the more effort you put into yourself, the better you’ll be. – Jason Schwartzman
  2. The secret, I don’t know… I guess you’ve just gotta find something you love to do and then… do it for the rest of your life.  – Max Fischer
  3. Writing is a very strenuous thing – it’s like banging your head against a wall. – Donald Glover
  4. I really like playing Leslie (Leslie Knope from Parks and Recreation), because it’s like the Sisyphean task of trying to get a park built is very emblematic of what’s happening anywhere someone’s just trying to make change happen while everybody tells them it’s not going to happen. – Amy Poehler

I’m so excited to fight for what I love! You should too! And never EVER be afraid of failing. Instead of being afraid of failure, think of it this way… (MAYBE, it’s not true for a select few but for the most part it’s true) you HAVE to fail to succeed. You have no other choice. If you want to become better, you have to fail. There is no other way!



Another uplifting message from Brandon Holly,



Much Love,

– Brandon Holly –

Life, Philosophy, Writing

All Shapes All Sizes…

I try very hard not to do this, but it seems nearly impossible. I do this on a daily basis. If you’re reading this and we have had a face-to-face conversation, I have most definitely done this to you.

I compare myself to people constantly. Am I making as much money as them? Am I as happy as them? Am I as adventurous, intelligent, healthy, attractive, strong, cool, patient, humorous, thoughtful, creative, kind, etc… as them?

The answer is always no.

Ho Hum...

Ho Hum…

Seriously, anytime I attempt to make myself  feel good by comparing myself to others, something like this happens…

Hmm... I notice that I am more physically fit than that person...

Hmm… I notice that I am more physically fit than that person…

Dang... but they are loads smarter than I am. They pick up analytical concepts at a MUCH faster rate than I... I suck...

Dang… but they are loads smarter than I am. They pick up complex concepts at a MUCH faster rate than me… I suck…

So, I’m constantly living in this world in which I am “winning” or “losing” some fake game that I’ve created in my mind. I’ve just recently come to terms with the fact I do that. No, this blog isn’t about how we shouldn’t size each other up. I believe we’re made to analyze and make adjustments accordingly. It makes sense. When we (humans) were out in the world without shelter or safe places to hide, we needed to be able to assess legitimate obstacles. This animal is bigger than me, but I’m smarter, but it’s faster. Ok, I’ll sneak up on it or hide.

That deer knows how to analyze threat assessment...

Threat Level: Human…

But, as far as sizing up other people go… I’m learning that every single person has a skill you don’t have. And, every single person lacks a skill you have. I find that beautiful. What that reveals to me is that we truly need each other. Human beings are highly mutually dependent. I’m not sure what that says about altruism, but it doesn’t matter. We don’t just help people because we want to. We help each other because we NEED to.

Anyway, I was writing this because I felt down on myself about what I’ve done so far in my life. And the thought that talked me down off of the ledge was that… I’m needed.

And I need you.

Much Love,

– Brandon Holly –